The One Thing You Must Have to Grow as a Person

Written by on July 28, 2021

You know the feeling. You’re missing something but can’t quite put your finger on what it is.
Here you are, in the middle of life. A decent person. A good job. As many friends as the next guy. What is it that keeps nagging at you?
Finally, an aha moment. You are ready for the next level.
Maybe it’s the position at your company you’ve been eying.
Maybe it’s that relationship that’s good but not great.
Or the list of things you planned to accomplish but haven’t.
You want to be in better physical shape but didn’t stay with the program.
Any of these ring a bell? I know they have for me.

Remember Data from Star Trek? He once said, “I aspire, sir, to be better than I am.” Intuitively, we know we have the potential to do those things we dream of, but we don’t know where to begin, or we start and don’t stick with it.

Animals and even plants have instincts. From the newborn deer that knows to stand within minutes, to the migration of animals that have never been taught where to go. Humans are born with an instinct as well – we don’t have to be told or taught to do it, we just know.

It is to learn. To grow into our potential.

When a baby crosses all the usual milestones, parents are there to celebrate, motivating the youngster to keep at it. When we get older, the instinct remains but the world provides a framework of learning that is often less exciting. Consequently, some of us lose the drive to pursue development.

When I was young, my dad made sure us kids worked hard because as he said, “It would put hair on our chest!” Well, I was sure I didn’t want a hairy chest, but back then we just did what we were told (until we were teenagers, then we did the opposite of what we were told).

I came to realize that “growing hair on my chest” really meant developing character, and for that, I am grateful to my parents.

Things such as camping, gardening, classical music, and education were forced on us as one might spoon medicine down the throat of a stubborn patient. Though the trendy term was never used, they were modeling personal growth, equipping us to pursue learning into our adulthood.

Even though moving forward is intuitive, it doesn’t come easily, thanks to the big “CZ,” that is, our Comfort Zone.

So how do we bust through and take the bull by the horns? How do we even know where to find the bull? Or maybe, like me, you’ve tried a few things but didn’t stick with it – running back to your Comfy Place before real change is made.

It may be that reading this blog is God’s way of letting you know now is your time. Now is the time to go to that next level. To accelerate your growth and see your potential.

But you cannot begin without following the First Law of Personal Growth

Be intentional about one small change.
One. Small. Change.

It’s as simple as that! You might consider a mentor, a coach, or a trainer. Even just inviting a friend who is also growth-minded to join you can make the difference between success and failure. So grab that bull by the horns and get started today! Do what you are wired to do – GROW!

“Change one small thing today and bigger changes will follow.” – Diana Cooper

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